It has been so long time since I have written anything, I hope I remember how! I’ve been very busy lately. Mostly trying to figure out what the fuck I’m doing with my life. I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching. A lot of self-reflecting and self healing. I’m slowly but surely learning about myself. I’m doing things I never thought I’d do. I mean that in a positive and negative way. But I’m growing. I learning about the world, seeing it from different point of views the more I learn about it. Which always brings me back to the root question, what is life? What am I suppose to be doing in my life?
I’m still young, but older enough to know what I want and don’t want in life. But I still struggle. Hard. I’m struggling to hold on to a relationship that literally doesn’t even exist anymore. Struggling to get out of my hopeless job. Struggling to maintain financial stabliltly. Struggling to find the answers, but can’t seem to find them. No matter how hard I look. I always would joke I’d ask myself if I knew the answers. And that’s when it all clicked for me. The reason why I couldn’t find answers to the question “what is life?”
Life is what you believe it is. Life is the way it is. Life is what you want it to be. Within this small world of ours, there are billions of lives. Each and every single one different from each other. Some better than others. Some a lot better than others. Some right in between. I’m right below that. I like to call it “upper lower class.” Meaning, I make enough to live. And that’s about it. I live pay check to pay check, with pretty much all of that going towards bills. If I want to do anything special and fun, I have to start saving way in advance and make sure that all other important bills are paid first. It’s a bit frustrating, but for me, it’s life. I try not to complain too much because I know that their are others who struggle a lot harder than I have to. I am thanks for a that hopeless job, because either though they treat me bad, I still at least have a job. That helps me have a car to drive, a home to live in and food to eat. No I don’t have much, but I have the basics of what I need to survive. And I guess, sometimes that what life feels like. More surviving, less actually living.
What little life you do get, there seems to always be a million people trying to tell you what to do with it. How to live it. Take the advise if/ when you want, but never forget that it is YOUR life. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes if it’s gonna help you learn. I know I have. Do what makes you happy. Even if other don’t approve. Example, I color my hair like once a year, I have very natural, very kinky hair. For any type of hair coloring is a risk, but even more so for black hair. And I have had issues in the past with my hair and coloring it doesn’t always seem to help . My mother advised me to stop coloring my hair. I didn’t. I colored my hair, and when she asked me why I simply said “just because.” Just because I can. Because I am in control of the choices and decisions I make in life.
Not just my life, every life around me. The closer you are to a person, the most important your interactions are with them. I see customers all day long, I sell them something, they love it! It’s magical! They thank me. When they leave that story, they aren’t thinking about me anymore. They transferred their happiness, into the item. It’s no longer me that brought them that joy, they think it is the item. But something happens to it. And when people are mad, they are always mad at the wrong people. So, they come to me, tell me the device isn’t working properly. When it comes to broken devices, all I can do is try to find the issues, address the problem, and try to make sure it doesn’t happen again. And that is my relationship. Well a common problem in it. In a nutshell, cause if I went over my ENTIRE relationship, it would need to be a whole post on it’s on. But pretty much, I still live with my ex-boyfriend. We still sleep in the same bed, and for most of the time, we are okay with each other. He can be such a loving, sweet funny person. But nonetheless, more often than not, he still chooses to disrespect me. I was being emotionally abused for a very long time and didn’t even know it. I was always made to be the villain. Which to be fair, I can admit when I’m being a bit headstrong, because that’s who I am. But my intentions are never to hurt anyone’s feelings and it’s just seemed like to me, sometimes, his intentions were to hurt mine. To Make me feel bad. I have seen subtle changes in him. He has expressed his desire to make up and has put in effect to change. But at this point, I have invested almost fifteen years of my life to this man. FIFTEEN YEARS! That’s a long time for anyone, but that’s over half my life. I have loved him since even before I knew love was. I always thought he felt the same, but I realized that if he did, there was no way he could treat me the way he does. I have total control over who is and isn’t in my life. And my next step in this broken relationship, move out and move on. Because I keep holding on to something that isn’t really moving forward. And I need to.
I’m still trying to find my footing in life. I don’t know what I’m suppose to be doing. I just wanna be happy. I’m starting to think, maybe they are no answer to the question “what is life?” Because I think life is about the seeking part, and less on the actual answers. Like when they say, it’s about the journey, not the destination. We are always trying to figure out what the end game is, what we are suppose to be doing in life with who and where by when. But maybe, were just suppose to go out there, live and let life guide us. Stop looking for answers and just forget about the question. I hate stressing about life, and for the most part, I can maintain a sense of serenity. But not always. Which is why I started this blog. It’s about my self reflections and telling a little bit of my story one post at a time. Share my journey and goals. In hopes that maybe someone else can find answers to their life questions here!
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